It might seem counter intuitive to be speaking about being selfish in an attempt to make your life better, but in reality it’s what you need to do. I look at it as a good first step. To take a word coined by Thomas Leonard call it Selfuness. Taking care of yourself and your time is an important element to ensure that you have the time to give to others. Some think that to be a nice person and to be a generous person you must always be willing to give, give, give, but unfortunately that leads to exhaustion, burn-out and potentially a variety of health issues that you would probably prefer not to have to deal with.

So here’s some easy steps for becoming Selfish or Selfulness:

1. Know what you want and so.
2. Being selfish is often a first step in getting your needs met and helping you build a reserve, allowing you to give back and be generous with others
3. Stop hanging around folks who aren’t “Selfish” - those people who build their identity on trying to “do good” all of the time. For you to be generous with others you need to take care of yourself first
4. Remove all negative thoughts around being selfish. Yes being selfish can include your ego, but this is not what this is about. Focus on your betterment to make things better for others.
5. Say no, just because you feel like it. It can be incredibly liberating once you do!

To learn more about this tool for living, check out one of these books

• The Portable Coach: 28 Sure Fire Strategies For Business And Personal Success

• Stand Up for Your Life: A Practical Step-by-Step Plan to Build Inner Confidence and Personal Power

And to close off:

“One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.”
- Mother Teresa

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