The people whom you have the most contact with and hang around will have either a positive or negative effect on your levels of self-esteem and confidence, which in turns effects how you interact with those most important to you.

We all know those people who are positive, happy and joyful to be around. How do they make you feel?  Yes, they make you feel the same! They can put zest into a boring atmosphere and can fill the room with positive, can do vibes that has noticeable effect onto everyone else.

We also know of those people who could are just the opposite! They never had the opportunities, they are always putting people down, they don’t like others to be successful, they are jealous and are negative thinkers - need I go on! These people drain your energy and bring you down to their level, a million miles away from the level that YOU want to be operating and where you need to be to be a full benefit to yourself and those you care about!

So what should you do to make sure that the people who you hang around with empower and support what you stand for rather than bring you down all of the time?

1. You have the power to choose who you hang around with. Ideally you want happy, vibrant and positive people.
2. If you have good friends who are negative and yet you still want to hang around them, make a point of letting them know how you feel – if they are a true friend they will respect you for this. If they are negative from time to time just acknowledge that this is what they are like and block out the negativity.
3. The same can be said with family. Your more mature family members have behaviours that have been conditioned for years and years and from different eras. Appreciate where they have come from and as mentioned above, elicit and select the information that filters through to your brain.
4. Remember, that nothing has meaning in life except the meaning that you give it.

An important step for busy women is to begin to focus on your self-care and doing what is necessary to make sure that those around you are the people that are going to enhance and improve your life not be an additional burden.  Remember, choose those who are important to you to be the ones who have any influence on your life.

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Take 5 minutes during the next 7 days to think about who is an energy drainer in your life and build a three step action plan to make the changes so they are no longer an energy drain!

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Much about being a coach is listening to our client and essentially “reading between the lines”, since much of what a coach does is over the phone an ability to be a strong active listener is very important. Recently, I discovered that interpretation of words can have a profound effect on how one reacts to a particular situation. Many people today find it easy to blame someone else for their issues, some will even blame it on the dog, people will find every opportunity to blame someone or something else before they lay the blame on themselves.

When you choose to blame someone rather take ownership of the issue you’re handing over all control of the situation to someone else. If you choose to lay blame, you’ve now decided that what has been done didn’t have anything to do with you, but at the same time the follow result or resolution will also have nothing to do with you. You lose any control in the situation or outcome and can only accept what happens. On the other hand should you decide to take responsibility for your impact in the situation you then become an active participant in the solution and in turn deciding the outcome of the situation. From there you can decide to continue to have continued participation or you can make a conscious decision to move away from the situation and live life on your terms.

Living an extraordinary life means choosing the best result for you which will lead to better living.

If you’re interested in learning more about coaching and how it can have a profound effect on your life then contact me today!

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